Friday, July 18, 2008

I'm gonna be a Mommy!!!!!

Ok, we have not had the final official word, but we have been assured that it would take a tragedy or a terrible something to make it not happen. We are going to be parents to a 13 year old girl. I'm so excited. I just want to shout it from the rooftops. I've been on the phone all afternoon since getting a call from our social worker, talking to family and letting them know that we are more than likely getting our new family member. They are all just as excited as we are. Scott is getting nervous, but he's handling it well. He just keeps saying it's a good thing we had experience with Curtis last fall. He taught us so much about parenting, about being on the same page, about discipline techniques and how to be creative in that. OH MY GOODNESS!!!! I'm going to be a mommy. Our social worker told me today that all the parties that will be at the meeting to decide for sure have already looked at our profile and they all think that it is a perfect match. So it's just about doing what has to be done in the process. The meeting is the 29th of this month and we are picking her up on the 30th. She will be with us for that weekend (July 30-Aug 3) and then she will go back to her foster family pretty much just to get her stuff. We then will sign adoption intent papers and she will officially move in with us in time to start school on the 15th of August. Then in 6 months later (which will be around Feb....which is my birthday) we will finalize the adoption. Which is interesting. We get her around Scott's birthday and we will finalize around my birthday. Maybe I'm reaching, but that just seems kind of cool to me. And next year we get to celebrate mothers day and fathers day with our child in our home. AAAAAHHHHH!!!!! I feel like I just got news that I'm pregnant. I just hope that the 29th and 30th get her fast. I have my surgery next week, so I will sleep that day away, and other than that I will have cleaning to do and getting the room ready (taking the winnie the pooh stuff down), painting her dresser (it looks horrible right now). Oh my goodness and only a matter of a few weeks to do it. And then we will have to enroll her, get school supplies, school clothes, etc. Wow, I better quit here before I have an anxiety attack....there's a lot to do to get ready to have a But my excitement is much more than my anxiety at this point. I'M GONNA BE A MOMMY!!!

Oh, thank you so much for this blessing in our life. I pray that we would be the parents to her that you want us to be. Guide us in raising her and knowing what choices to make. I pray that she would find you as she lives with us. Let us be the Godly examples that we need to be to our child. I don't even know what to say except "thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you." I give her into your hands right now. She is a gift from you, she is yours and we just have her while on earth. Keep her in your hands and start a work on her now. Let her be molded into what you want her to be molded into. Thank you so much for this opportunity.


Ed Groover said...

Great news, Melissa!

Andy Stanton said...

Scott and Melissa:

Congratulations. I was just told about your blog today and I spent the past hour reading the whole thing!

Melissa, you don't know me, but Scott does - we went to high school together in Logan. After reading your blog, we have quite a bit in common (at least with eye surgeries and adoption).

Although I did not have cancer (and still have both eyes), I am a diabetic and have had two surgeries (one on each eye) to remove and replace the vitreos humor in my eyes (too much bad blood sugars and bleeding on my retinas).

My wife and I have also dealt with infertility issues and miscarriages. Dana gave birth to our son, Jackson in 2000. After that she became pregnant again in 2002 which ended up in miscarriage. We pursued an adoption of a baby girl in 2002 that never happened.

In 2004 we began the process of adopting our daughter, Grace, from China. We traveled in March 2005 to bring her home. Right after we got home from China, Dana got pregnant again. At 12 weeks gestation, she miscarried.

Last summer, we learned of a little boy in China who needed a home and God told us he was meant for us. In January of this year, I traveled to China again to bring him home.

Please know that your faith is the most important thing you can have in life. Without our faith in God, we would not have been able to get through the ups and downs He has led us through.

Congratulations on bringing your new daughter into your home. I hope your D&C went well and you are resting at home (when Dana had the second miscarriage, she had a D&C - one of our friends called it a 'dusting and cleaning').

If you are interested in reading our family story, do so at

Please keep us updated via the blog on your family. There will be lots of ups and downs bringing a new child into your home (Grace was 14 months old when we adopted her - not many problems. Gabe is 2 and has had some hard adjustments - but we're getting through it).

Take care!

Andy Stanton
Hays, Kansas